I've worked with my T for almost seven years. We click really well and have a good bond. He has self-disclosed a few times about some very difficult things he was dealing with and it's all been very natural. But I don't go easy on him. He's in charge of himself, I'm not. I don't say that to be cold because I deeply care about my T, but I recognize the relationship dynamic. If he can't deal with his job, then that's his responsibility to recognize. In fact, after one particular disclosure a couple years ago, he was quick to let me know that he was in therapy to help deal with it. I know the situation had wounded him very badly (in something he couldn't foresee, something I said triggered something in him). He did an excellent job of making sure I knew it wasn't my job to take care of him and he apologized for having been triggered. It didn't happen again so I assume he processed it with whomever he was seeing.