You said in your first post that she said they fought because he was pressuring her to have sex. He may not have sexually assaulted her but did he coerce her? Because it sounds to be that this isn't like a him/you thing like, oh she was so sexually free with him but not with you. Her hesitance that you talk about when you were first together really makes me think there's some trauma associated with sexual activity for her.



We don't live in a society that really teaches about consent. In fact, there's a lot of disagreement about what consent is, when it needs to be given, who can give it to whom, etc. She may want to seek some counseling, if a counselor presses her on it in ways that you can't then she might find that she feels differently about it than she wants to admit.