I always read the suggestion to ask family and friends for support when getting out of depression/anxiety. I have gone through depressive episodes several times in my life and have noticed the last couple of times that there is no one around. I have contacted friends/family. They just give really inane advice like "Get a kitten to keep you company," when I am facing dire life circumstances. I want to know if this is common?

I have had to get mentally tough and realize family/friends are just not there for me. I have tried to figure out why but this just results in a lot of rumination that increases the depression.

When I read this suggestion it irritates me now.

If I had really supportive family and friends I would probably not have reached this low point. My family is not very functional despite high levels of education, and I guess the same could just be said of friends.

Is it common for people to have to pull themselves out on their own?