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Originally Posted by Petra5ed
It seems like the more blank slate a therapist the more opportunity for transference.
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That's the theory, yes.
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Originally Posted by Petra5ed
I have seldom felt a love I thought more genuine than this one, so why am I told it's projection and transference?
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The idea here is that you cannot love someone you don't know. No one can love a blank slate. (I seriously doubt this. If your mother was a blank slate, you'll grow up loving blank slates. But I digress.)
But as you say, the blank slate
leaks. No two Ts are identical and the T's sex, race, class, clothes, decorating tastes, accent, vocabulary, intelligence, culture etc are there for all to see. They have prejudices and agendas. There's enough there for a patient to fall in love with.
Anyway, projection and transference exist in the "real world", too. It is absurd to suppose that one person's love for another has nothing do with people they have previously loved. Isn't it a cliche that people fall in love with people who remind them of their own parents?
So love in the T's office and love outside it are not so very different.
That's what I think.