I have this chronically ill, housebound friend in another state to whom I write almost daily, just letting him know what's up with me, etc, because I apparently arrogantly thought he would be interested and be happy to get a friendly email.

He saves up all his frustration with me and then only writes when he's pissed off and can't take anymore. I get all my faults pointed out in spades and how I am just rude and selfish and clueless, etc.

We have been friends for 10 years and I was in a much different place when we met than I am now. He claims to love me and wants to help me, but all he does is tell me what's wrong with me. I suppose it's a sign of growth that I finally am ready to tell him to F off, but I don't know how to do it kindly. Ideas?

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