Hello Platinum. I am sorry that this thing has happened to you.
Several people have said that you should look on this person with a feeling of love and acceptance and that is how you will be able to move on. One person has suggested that this is a test of your faith.
I become very irritated when people, particularly people of certain religions, say things like this. The reason why is that most of us here have mental health issues that either have been or will be with us for the rest of our lives. On top of that, there are all the people with debilitating physical health issues, not to mention all the people starving or being trained to kill as children or being sold into slavery or human trafficking and the list goes on and on. In cases like all of these, one might say that life itself is a "test" of your faith in God - and he's the one doing the testing. I think that if this were true, all of us would either have no faith at all or would simply want to stop living.
I'm going to take a more practical, rooted-in-reality approach. The first thing that you need to realize about this woman is that she has mental health issues of her own. Her reaction as you described it is NOT NORMAL. I'm sure that a lot of people around here don't like the word "normal". My own therapist doesn't like it! But the fact of the matter is that there are certain socially acceptable ways to act, react, and to treat someone in polite society. When someone so seriously deviates from that "norm" in such a relationship as you two had - that of friends - it is fair to assume that the person is not psychologically healthy or stable. I obviously can't put the stamp of mental illness on this person but I wouldn't be surprised if she had one of the personality disorders. The other option is that she is religious to the point of being a zealot. Zealots often bear the same characteristics as people who are involved in a cult. That could be why she was so fiercely trying to defend this faith against you - as if you were a threat somehow.
In any case, with regards to this situation she is the one who is messed up in the head, not you. If you really identify with this faith and want to be a part of it just think of her as a bad apple. But, I would advise you to be on the lookout for any other people who might be equally zealous. If there are a few, stay away. If there are many, get out and move on.
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