Iwonderaboutstuff,
I think that's what we'll end up having to do. My therapist agrees with me on doing the no contact route for my well being and happiness BUT I'm not willing to lose my family over this so I don't know how I'm going to manage during family events other than taking a lot of breaks from the party to compose myself. My Son suggests I ignore her and if that makes her mad and she chooses to not attend future events, that's her choice but knowing I will at least try, he will be there for me and attend all events with his kids.

By the way, the entire extended family knows about everything because I told them. They left me no choice when they asked what she and I were fighting about. My DIL was pissed when I did that. Too bad! I made sure the responsibility of this was put on the two people who caused the problem and not on me.

It's funny how life works in the fact that my Mother-in-law has never liked me. You see she raised a Momma's Boy and NOBODY, I MEAN NOBODY would've ever been good enough for her little boy. I think she always thought I would be the one to let my Husband down one day and prove she was right about me......ever since this happened, she has done a complete turn around towards me and supports me and stopped all nasty remarks to me like she's always done. I chose a long time ago to separate myself from her when I can, just to keep the peace, now I feel comfortable around her and I feel the respect she now has for me. Finally! Praise God! She's very old now and I'm so glad I got to finally feel that from her before she dies. I never thought in a million years that she would take my side on this. I thought she would say something like....well you must have done something to make him look at another Woman, but she didn't.

Thanks for the reply and advice!