Hi ruby! Long time no see! Boy you could be describing me here. I didnt realize it, but i inherited always saying no and reacting negatively from my mother. Plus my dad taught me it was good manners to always say no - would you like a drink? No thanks!

Its a hard habit to break. Very very hard. I took a comedy improv class, and they trained us to say "yes and..." in improvisation exercises. Like, "yes and doesnt that coffee smell yummy? Do you think we can have some?" That way you give your comedy or talking partner a way to continue the skit or conversation. Just remember to say "yes and...". I know i still say no to my therapist WHENEVER he says anything. Its awful.