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Originally Posted by DBTDiva
Sometimes I feel guilty in a more general way but I remind myself that my mother is not a loving, nurturing, healthy individual.
It's really out of your control, you can't control another person, only protect yourself when need be. Their actions are their choice.
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Couldn't have said it any better. For me , just replace your mother with my ex-wife.
Overcoming the guilt is what I work on all the time. I was conditioned for many , many
years that it was " always MY fault ". Now that I'm out of the toxic relationship I can focus on making myself better and getting over the horror of all the mental abuse.
Also she was not nurturing , caring , loving , feeling or ANYTHING to me for a long time.
Didn't give anything back. Just took. Not even an explanation for why she was doing this to me !
Now my actions will be mine without the overbearing toxic influence.