Hello Inny -- I did not reply because the situation is so complicated, I feel overwhelmed. I do not feel qualified to put in my $.02. I think you should develop a relationship with a therapist and talk this over with her, read her the letter, and really work on finding a strategy that is right for you.

Our relationships with our parents are very complicated and deep, and I do not believe that a 125-word response from Dear Amy or Abby or Wants is appropriate.

I apologize for not responding sooner and letting you know that I read and cared. I just felt so dang unequal to creating a response. I know what it feels like when people here ignore a request, and I'm sorry that I contributed to your feeling that way.

Take care, Inny, and keep us posted.