Hi, I want to thank you in advance for your help and advise.
I am a 26 year old girl, I have been in a on and off relationship with a 29 year old man who I love very much, we are very happy together except for the fact that we do not have sex anymore.
At the beginning of the relationship we had amazing sex, everything was perfect, itīs been about a year since our sex life basically died, at first he had trouble keeping an erection for more than a minute, and when he finally did he ejaculated pretty fast.
I did not know how to handle this situation, and I started to panic and feel pretty insecure, with time I began to feel really depressed, because he would just avoid any type of sexual contact , he was affectionate, just not in a sexual way, my insecurities where not helping either, so we separated for about 5 months, but the truth is I am really in love with this person, and I believe he really loves me too, so we came back together about a year ago.
We had sex during those first months we came back together, and it was amazing I felt wonderful, it still was not as usual as I wouldīve liked but it was something so I was happy and I thought the problem was solved.
Now be are back at the same point, its been about 5 months and he never initiates anything, not even to pleasure me or to do something fun even if it doesn't involve penetration, so I decided to take him to a doctor and had him tested for any ED related issues, he went and talked to the doctor, he recommended cialis and ran some test on him, the thing is, he never went to look for the test results because he told me he was sure it was not a physical issue.
So, I recently asked him to go to therapy, and he agreed, but the reality is he shows no interest in getting this problem fixed, he has not gone to therapy yet, although he said he would.But do I have to make the appointment? I mean there is no taking action on his side, he tells me he loves me and seems concerned, but its been so long, I am starting to wonder.
I have even thought that maybe he is questioning his sexual orientation, and I really donīt know if i should stay with him any longer.
Thank you for you support.
D.