thank you everyone for your comments!!!

after i calmed down a bit...i messaged the person who sent the message....just to ask what they were thinking. the person messaged back saying they didn't mean for it to be hurtful only meant it (the entire message) more as a way to encourage me that things are not hopeless and i can make the changes in my life i need to.

they words the person chose were not well chosen - but i am glad that i decided to message and talk it out with this member. i'm going to choose to believe that this member was only trying to help and not hurt.

i really do need to believe that the person didn't mean to hurt me. it doesn't make sense that anyone posting here would intentionally try to hurt another.

so i'm putting it behind me and hope that the other member will put it behind as well. i hold no ill will and hope the member doesn't toward me as well....after all i did lash out pretty strong.

i guess this should just be a reminder to us all to try and be especially careful when choosing our words and how we use them.

again - i do appreciate you all coming to my rescue!!