thx. I am going to hold off until Monday before heading back up there. That will give her and her daughter time with each other. I also shouldn't step on toes that way.

I just feel this whole situation is messed up. My ex is out of the country so he has an excuse but for his sister to wait a week before making the trip (2 1/2 hrs away) and his brother 2wks (5 1/2hrs away) is frankly offensive. Mum is touch and go. I can't fathom why neither of them weren't immediately on their way here.