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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
"I was APPALLED that she told him it's ridiculous to expect him to adapt to living with me. Basically, her assessment was that it was my responsibility to learn to control my PTSD symptoms." quote Werewoman
The last three days alone for me has been HORRIBLE. I have been dealing with a situation with my elderly parents and an older sister that has been so TOXIC. I have been struggling with this off and on now for a while.
I have been talking to my older brother and him and I are concerned and want to know about my parent's finances and the status of their Will and more importantly we want to make sure we both have a say in their care. I saw my older brother for the first time in almost 20 years this past Monday. My older sister has been illusive with providing us with the financial status and what my parents need. She appeared during our visit at my parents and went immediately on the defensive. She blew up, and vented to her daughter who vented to my daughter who vented anger at me.
In my life everyone around me has boundaries and their boundaries say, "OE, you cannot have PTSD". And yet they do and say toxic things to me that trigger me into having a PTSD episode.
I do work very hard at managing the PTSD and I am sure anyone that reads this who has PTSD knows that is a challenge. It is unfair to encourage individuals that live with someone who struggles with PTSD to the line of thinking you have said here Werewoman. I do not expect others to manage my PTSD, I do know I have to figure that out, but I cannot be told DON'T HAVE PTSD, because I do have it and what I do need is SUPPORT AND UNDERSTANDING.
Today I was yelled at by both my daughter and my husband, TODAY WAS A BAD DAY, and the PTSD has been badly triggered. I honestly wish I had a video to show how my husband stands there and basically talks down to me in a very loud voice and negative body language.
Today was a BAD DAY.
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Quick update: Friday morning, Hubby had a long session with MY therapist, and I'm happy to say that while there are still a lot of issues to work out, at least now he's willing to TRY. I can't ask for anything more than that.
I'm sorry to hear you're having such a hard time with your family. I know this probably is not a viable option for you, but the people who insist on living in denial and try to tell me I don't have PTSD are no longer a part of my life. It's not an easy thing to do AT ALL, but once you do it, you have a sense of vindication and the RELIEF is unbelievable.
My family has no boundaries, either, and if I was triggered or hurt by them, it was always my fault. You know, 'WW, you're too sensitive', 'WW you exaggerate', 'WW, you don't need therapy, you just need to get a hold on yourself' - blah, blah, blah, BS on top of BS until I found myself practically buried in it. Finally, I had had enough and told them all to go away.
Again, I'm sorry you've been having such a rough time. I hope it gets better soon.
