I don't mean to be crass or dismissive. I am a single, 50 yr old woman. I am only talking about my own personal feelings. I am unmarried and would not get into an exclusive relationship or marriage to someone without sex.

I am sorry for your history of abuse and to anyone else who was abused.

I just read some of your earlier posts. I hope your therapist is helpful with this issue. Maybe you could talk to them with your husband present?

Have you considered BPD?