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Old Nov 15, 2015, 02:55 PM
TishaBuv TishaBuv is offline
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I obsess about certain events and relationships of the past. Talking about it with the people who were a part of it helped me feel less confused and alone, but I still think about it all th time. Talking to the person who hurt me, where that was possible, helped me forgive or at least see if from their perspective.

Going back to the town where we lived until my father died made me too anxious to go, (we fled the house) but after I went back many years later and had some new experiences there, that feeling eased up a lot. We even drove by the house a few times.

I think people mean well when they advise to move on and stop dwelling, but I can't. A good point was made here that it's PTSD and OCD. But also, I think people get tired of hearing about it. They don't know how to help and are frustrated.

I don't know what can make the obsessing go away. I've tried meds, but they didn't work. Now I feel like just embracing it. It's my mind and I'll obsess if I want to. It's probably the mind's way of trying to heal.
Thanks for this!
littleowl2006, vonmoxie