WW:

My mother also hated her mother. She blames her for the things that happened to her as a child, as well as the grandfather. But....by the time I was born they had changed and I don't know who they were then just that they were good to me as a child, when the mother was so bad. My dad was not bad, just sorta detached. He said he loved us but I never knew if it was true or not. Now he keeps me at arm's length or maybe I keep him that way. Anyway, I'm not sure about him.

I was fixing to call mother. I call her by her name, which starts with a T but I'm too afraid that it will confuse people, but I do so hate to call her mother. It leaves a bad taste in my mouth just typing it....

I am going to take the advice of my husband and you guys and just cut my losses at this point. It's too unhealthy for me to have a relationship with her at this point. I am finally feeling more like me and I don't want that dragline pulling me back down.

The other's shoulds are just going to have to be silenced....even if I have to just the mute button on when they speak.

Thanks so much for posting to me.I totally understand your decision and respect the strength you had to make it!

((((((HUGS))))))
Kimberly.