Hi Smilie -- That is a good question.

First, I no longer engage in telling anyone secrets. I keep everything to myself that I wish to remain confidential. I have been burned in the past when something I considered confidential got out, so the only person I trust to keep my secrets is me.

I will disclose senstive information to friends, after I trust them, but never anything that they can use against me in a serious way if the relationship went bad. I do not disclose financial infomation, lend me car or my keys.

Second, in an intimate relationships, I do not reveal what I did in bed with past lovers. I reveal only what is needed for the other to understand what role past lovers played in my life. Of course, I would disclose STDS, a police record, an illness or anything that could affect the current important relationship.

I will be interested in reading what others write.