Littleowl-i want to say something nut i don't want to come off sounding harsh-i am not trying to be

There is one thing I have tried to implement into my life for awhile now. It is an idea I find helps develop me as a person at times and set boundaries at other times. See, when an entire group of people decide there is something "wrong" with me then - the fact is, something somehow did go wrong - either in my decision making (of my boundaries most likely but possibly other things as well) or in my personality/morals and once i discover what it was i can choose to change it or not to change it. So - I go about analyzing when I noticed any kind of changes in the way those people treated me and think about the situation and how I was reacting to it and to them and talk to them to try to understand how they felt about those things - then try to decipher everything based on that information and make the choices i want based on the conclusions

That way it gives me a chance to grow while possibly allowing the friendship(s) to remain

Does that make sense?