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Old Nov 15, 2015, 06:49 PM
jasmine30 jasmine30 is offline
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Actually there was one time that we argue, but it was just me argue. He just quietly listen.
I'm the one that not calm, I'm easily prone to anxiety. It was me that yell and scream at him.

Last time there something we quite don't see eye to eye on, I yell at him, I keep yell and scream at him. And he just sit there listen and listen, and let me yell and talk until I run out of words.
He doesn't talk back a single word. He doesn't say anything, he just quiet and listen.. He very calm. He sit there look at me yell and scream at him without talk a word back.
Is he doing this all wrong?

After I no longer can yell and calm down. I realized I was wrong, so I apologize and said sorry to him. I thought he would be mad at me.
He hugs me and calmly said it is okay, and he not mad at me. He said he understand, that why he just quietly listen to me yell and talk, and not say a word.
I feel terrible for treat him that way. It only happen that time, I told myself NOT to do that again.

Well, after I'm done yelling, I calm down and we talk it out. He really patience and understanding, he never blame me for yelling. He just let me yell till I'm done, and afterwards he talk it out together.

I dunno if this is just his personality, he just so calm. He always let me have things my way so I can be happy. However, he does speak up his preference. Or when we don't agree or something, he does speak up why he doesn't agree.
BUT then at the end, 95% of the time me he let me have it my way so I can be happy.

I dunno if this is just how he is, or he suppress himself so I can be happy? That what I'm worried about.
My reply on #4. I ask because it have been on my mind. Also because I believe that when a couple don't fight, it probably mean one spouse suppress themself, and resentment might build up over time.

Is this normal for a guy? Is he going to feel resentment over time? Is he suppress himself? Or am I over-analytical, over-thinking again?

Last edited by jasmine30; Nov 15, 2015 at 08:49 PM.
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