
Nov 15, 2015, 08:41 PM
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Originally Posted by Trippin2.0
Word of caution, while it definitely is ok to share your struggles with your loved one, be careful that this person is not doubling up as your round the clock T.
Its important for our relationships to retain balance and not be all encompassed in our MI, as our partners can buckle under the weight if there's no positives to help balance it out.
I doubt your bf is sick of you, he may just be taking strain, as he's been taking care of both of you for quite some time. Maybe he was hoping you're getting better, then you burst his bubble with your anxiety and he lashed out.
Not that I'm making excuses for him, but its a possibility. Best thing would be to talk it out and hear what he says.
My bf?
Nobody told me not to put all my rotten eggs in one basket and mold my bf into a 24/7 T.
Guess what, I drowned him in my mental bullshyt because he's not trained to be a T and we broke up.
We got back together eventually though, and now I'm careful to not over share, or only share with him. I have a T, friends, family, as well as him. Lots of baskets.
And I know not everyone has many baskets, so in that case I would choose what I share wisely.
Because if you share every little detail, they may not be as emotionally available when shyt hits the fan.
Anyway, I hope I've made sense.
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This pretty much sums up what I was going to say. We forget they are only people too doing the best they can. They burn out like anyone else
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I used to rule the world
Seas would rise when I gave the word
Now in the morning, I sleep alone
Sweep the streets I used to own
I used to roll the dice
Feel the fear in my enemy's eyes
Listen as the crowd would sing
Now the old king is dead! Long live the king!
One minute I held the key
Next the walls were closed on me
And I discovered that my castles stand
Upon pillars of salt and pillars of sand
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