With my husband, when we first got together our sex life was just wow, it was amazing. Not to get graphic but more or less he was the biggest I had ever had in my life but at one point he started to not be able to be completely up to par. Still now he is unable to fully get erect. This is not the only reason why our sex life has been depleted, there is no fire in it, there is no fireworks or just enjoyment in it for me. It feels like another house chore because he no longer makes it romantic or steamy. I don't feel that electricity and just wow factor anymore with him. It feels forced (we both seem to not want it, do it out of habit, to get off) there is just no excitement. My husband is a good father to our son and I do trust him with our son. I married him because I thought things would get better. I thought it was all in my head that I was the one making it complicated and I am sure in many ways I was but I'm sorry but to be in a marriage or any relationship without the show of any affection is torture. I did talk to him about it and it changed for a few months but it's gone right back to the way it was. The guy from work is honestly a good friend, someone I can openly vent to without worrying about him telling others. I do find him appealing, I won't lie but I am in no way a home wrecker and wouldn't do that to my family. It's just nice having a friend that is honest and listens. What I meant as far as being independent is that I have never been on my own, had always been with someone and have never taken time to truly find myself, to grow as a person and not rely on someone all the time.