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Originally Posted by tamcat
Ok, without repeating my whole soppy story... I am married, having issues with wife, ended up getting involved with an OW. Now that things are serious and divorce is a reality, I have realised that I can't go through with it. I love my wife, and don't want to give up our life that we spent 12 years building. Problem is... I have tried to break it off with the OW a few times, and it just never works. By now I have also hurt her very badly, but for some reason she keeps taking me back. I choose my family, and will do anything to make things work.
How do I break things off with the OW? I am a dog for what I've done, and I know that very well. She has been through a lot in her life, and I promised that I wouldn't hurt her. I will now be going back on everything I promised to someone who trusted me. I know that it's exactly what I would have done to my wife, but I have been going through a lot of confusion and my bipolar has been going haywire.
Please can anybody give me advice?
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OK. Just a few observations : You don't explain what the " issues " with your wife are.
So you got involved with another woman serious enough to consider divorcing your wife of 12 years. This is a lot different from a one night stand. Now you say you want to break it off with the OW but you can't. WHY ?Do you love her ? You hurt her " very badly " but she still takes you back. Why ?( BTW: Home wreckers are not the type of woman you want to stay with .)
Who did you promise not to hurt , the OW ? What about the vows you made to your wife when you got married ?
And then at the end of your post you say your bipolar which may actually be the most important fact of this whole drama.
And one last thing , Don't tell your wife anything you may later regret very much.
It's never forgotten or forgivin. ( Just a personal view , before I'm beaten to death )
Keep posting