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Originally Posted by cobalttinor
Personally I have had enough with people trying to tell me I should be happy being alone. I think some people can do it, maybe, but I refuse to try and make myself something I am not. I am not meant to be alone and I am not satisfied with friends and family. But unfortunately I have yet to find someone who can accept me and appreciate me as I do them.
I think it's a valid option for some but not for others. We are not all meant to be the same. Maybe you were happy before because you had never experienced that feeling. Maybe you can go back, maybe you can't.
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That's your choice, but the problem is that you can't always be with someone. Relationships end, people die. If you can't be happy being alone, you're resigning yourself to being miserable unless something outside of yourself provides you happiness. That's way too much power in the other person's hands for me. I prefer being in a realtionship, but when I couldn't be happy on my own I sometimes picked people just so I wouldn't be alone, instead of waiting for what I actually needed in a person. It has also caused me to stay in bad relationships too long because that was "better than being alone." I've been with my boyfriend for over a year and I know if we were to break up it would be a struggle to get back to enjoying being alone like I did before we met, but I do like knowing with 100% certainly I'm with him because our relationship enriches both of our lives, not because I don't want to be alone.