Hi,
I'm new to this site, but very thankful that I found it. I have been trying to get a hold of a counsellor
from my owork and have not had any luck in the last 3 days.

I'm married with a child (7 yrs old). I have been married for almost 10 years.
3 years ago, I did something I probably shouldn't have. Sometimes I wish I hadn't. I was pregnant and
wierd things started happening...anyway to make a long story short I checked my husbands cell phone bill
and found that he had been calling "massage parlours" and women who's numbers were in the classifieds as
"adult entertainment". Shortly thereafter I confronted my husband and told him that I knew he had gone to
one of these places. Initially he denied it. I pressed on and he confessed that he had gone twice for a "massage".
As I do not know the extent of what happens at these places I asked. He assured me that the do not have
intercourse with you at these places, but that they do do oral and manual stimulation. He told me he indulged
in the manual. At that time, I had a young child and was not married for long (and was younger) adn was quick
to blame myself for this and therefore worked through this with him. I did not tell him how I had discovered this.
He was/is under the impression that someone saw him going in.

Everythings been ok until now. Recently I have been getting annoyed at how attached to his cell phone he is.
I did another check. Only not from bills, from the phone itself as this is a new phone and now I don't get the bills.
His employer does. Anyway, turns out he's calling again.

He called a massage parlour that is minutes from his work (visit on lunch?). He is also calling prostitutes. What
also concerns me is that he is calling a particular kind of prostitute. When I say particular, I mea as far as nationality goes.
A nationality of which, by the way, I am not.
I feel as though there is no hope for us. I have been thinking about what I should do...leave, or stay. Is he a sex-addict?
I don't understand. Our sex life is not great, but my sex drive is high. I don't initiate it as he once told me he was too tired
and I felt humiliated. I just don't initiate it anymore. I can barely look or speak to him and he is at an absolute loss (or so it seems)
as to what is wrong. I don't want to say anything until I've spoken to someone though. I'm have however, taken up drinking every night so that I can get though
this, and rid yself of the pain. I suppose so that I can talk to him also. I now don't believe that he did not see a prostitute. I don't know if
he's just calling them to get cheap thrills or not though.

I feel like hell. My whole body feels like its weeping, but numb at once. I feel as though I am in shock. I want to leave, but then think of what this will do to my daughter. And our lives in general. Its not a pretty thought. I'm scared. At the same time, I want to leave. Some advice? Anyone? Sorry to have gone on for so long...