When she broke off contact my friend (who is ill)said it was "her loss" ,that this was happening due to her problems.Can someone say that and be sincere-or is it yet another lie (she told so many in the past)? What I don't understand is,if someone really thought it was "their loss" ,they wouldn't break off contact in the first place would they? Or if they did,they'd regret it? I might be more inclined to believe it if she wasn't obsessed with an online relationship-so clearly she can maintain a relationship.

It sounds as though the "it's me not you" isn't genuine.