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Originally Posted by Long-distancelost
Thank you for all the input. He has small kids and is living with his ex just so that she doesn't take the kids. He completely supports her, mentally and financially.
It doesn't bother me because I know they are done. What bothers me is that he doesn't want to move because kids have day care, etc that he doesn't have any to disrupt.
I wouldn't mind moving but he just doesn't seem like he is ready because I have tried to end this relationship before and he is afraid to bring kids back in.
DBTDiva, I may have to take your advice ,be strong and walk away.. Yes, I love him but I am too unhappy right now.
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I am dating a man with kids for the first time, we have been together for over a year. I always had a no-kids policy before. Kids really do always have to come first. He shouldn't put his entire life on hold though, I don't know if he's divorced or if they were never married but either way he can get shared/joint custody. Relocating might not be an option because he wants to stay close to them but living with his ex is not a long-term option. Supporting her financially is a bad idea, but that's really separate from everything else except to say that regardless if this is his ex, he still has a family - she might as well be his current gf/wife in all ways except romantically. If he wants a future with you he needs to move on from his past.