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Originally Posted by continuosly blue
Short version : Filed for a no fault divorce. Signed an agreement trying to " simplify " settling things without too much lawyer involvement. No kids under 18. Just me and her.
I basically left with nothing just to get out.
She never handed in the final papers to the court for the " final decree ".
So we are still legally married. She did this for financial reasons. Now I can make
her hand in those papers but in all honesty it will cost me too. So we're basically
just separated even though I live elsewhere.
Here's my conundrum : I wanted to get the final decree so it will be done and official.
Also because I wanted ALL ties cut so there would have to be no communication.
Because of the way it is now I feel the umbilical cord has not been cut and I can't
psychologically move on. I'm starting to feel like paying the price for this to happen.
Also is she still trying to hurt me psychologically ?
She knows how fragile I am.
Heeeeeeeeeeeeelllllllllllllllllllllppppppppppppppppppp.
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Get a lawyer. Bottom line, period. Pay whatever it costs. If you cannot get the papers in your hand to file yourself, go to a lawyer. Who cares why she did it? She may be irresponsible, she may be trying to hurt you, maybe both, maybe another reason we will never know but if you want a clean break and to move on do whatever it takes to do that. You can earn more money, it's harder to build back self-esteem, heal from hurt, etc.