DBTDiva, thank you very much.

I couldn't agree more. Really. Once she's cool again I'm gonna talk about the psychologist one more time. I'm not insisting, just from stubborness, but because we're on a dead end here. She is emotionally and financially dependent, so it's not an option to 'leave her' as she wouldn't be able to buy her own food. I know that she's an adult and all, but with things like they are right now I don't know what would be of her.

Luckily, I don't shape my life around her illness, but it affects me a lot, of course. She's not manipulative to the point of threatening killing herself so I don't leave home, she actually feels very ashamed that I ended up missing a day of school because of that, but no apologies, no words... nothing. She's so ashamed that she won't even talk to us for the rest of the day.

Honestly, if she was manipulative and nasty it would be easier for me to disconnect, but she isn't. However, we see it that she doesn't really measure how she's affecting her children with this behaviour, she slacks with her own health (not looking for medical treatment for her hyperthyroidism, for example) if no one tells her to/take care of it for her and she never acted as if she worried or considered what would be of us if something happened to my father. Now I really need her to get her stuff together because I know she'll have to live by herself sometime in the next 5-10 years. Neither me or my sister are inclined to assume this parenting role.