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Originally Posted by HisPresence
Problem is, the way he solve conflicts kindda bother me. I feel that as a "MAN", he should talk back to me, told me that as a wife I can't keep yell and scream at him in his face nonstop like that.. You know what I'm trying to say?
In my Chinese culture, a wife cannot yell and scream at her husband face like that.
Like what I said in the last page, when I yell and scream at him, he worries about me, I can see the worried looks in his eyes. BUT then he just sit there quietly, and look at me yell and scream without say a word. Basically, he let me yell and talk blah blah until I run out of words.
After he saw I calm down, he started talking to me. And he calmly talk out the problem and work it out together.
He does speak up his viewpoints, he does speak up why he doesn't agree with me. But then like I say at the end 95%he let me have things "my" way so I can be happy.
He wasn't mad at me when I scream at him, he said he understand and that I don't need to apologize.
He thinks that when I'm mad yell and scream, it best that he should just be quiet and listen, and let me yell it all out.. Once I'm done yell and calm down, he will start talk to me and work it out together.
You see? this is the way he solve conflicts, arg!!
NEVER once he tell me to Shut up.
NEVER oncde he raise his voice on me.
He NEVER call me any mean words. The most meanest word he ever call me is "Silly"; which is true, I do do silly things in front of him.. And the word silly is not that mean, out of plenty of other words out there that he could have call me.
I heard of women complain that their DH call them the 'B' word and "C" word. So I'm darn glad that my husband only call me Silly.
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And I want to added to this.
I feel that as a "MAN", he needs to speak up, or at least say 'HisPresence you cannot yell and scream at me like that'.. But Nope, he just be quiet and listen to I yell and talk until I run out of words.
He thinks that when I'm mad yell and scream, it best that he should just be quiet and listen, and let me yell it all out.. Once I'm done yell and calm down, he will start talk to me and work it out together.
This is the way he solve conflicts, and I feel that as a man, he should speak up.
I know he CAPABLE of argue. He have two relationships prior met me, his second relationship was a dead serious long term that almost lead to marriage. He loves that ex-GF alot alot. But he said they have alot of differences, and he sick and tired of all the fighting and argueing that he just can't do it anymore; that was why they part their ways.
He clearly know how to argue, he argue alot with that ex-GF of his. So why not argue with me? arg!