I know what a separation is for I am going through one myself and a divorce. It takes often two years to go from being a couple to becoming single again. I don't mean being unmarried and available. I mean knowing who you are as a person. Once having been married your interests change. You don't have the same ones before you were married and single. That is often why they say wait two years to know what you really want before getting involved in another relationship. I am still going through the process. Too many people say just get over it. They are clueless of the pain of separation and the anxiety and inner turmoil one goes through. It is a healing process, it takes time often longer than we want it to take. I recommend that you talk to a marriage counselor. It sounds like quite possibly your letting go of the first marriage still needs some inner healing for the second one to move forward. Work on it with a therapist. Don't be too quick to give up on the one you are in. Feelings often trap us and deceive us. It will be worth working through. tc