We are only as sick as our secrets. If we keep putting a wall around us to guard ourselves against others because of our insecurities or vulnerbilities we will never get anywhere. Life is full of risks. You have the mind set you want to be single. Okay, be single. Now think about being pen pals with someone and just spill how you feel out to them. You have to make friends first before you date someone. Just let down your guard and your list or demands of what you want and let others get to know you, and you them. Just make friends and it will develope from there. There will always be creepy people out there. Just sift through them and don't give them the time of day when pen paling with others. hope this helps. tc