Thanks for the replies-what I don't understand is that we were such close friends before she got ill-much of it at her making-she wanted lots of daily contact,so she did allow herself to get close to me.....................now she seems obsessed with romantic relationships doomed to fail .This current internet one isn't the first in a relatively short space of time.I would have been prepared to "be there" for her as a friend though,long term.She knows that.It's almost as though she deliberately behaved in an appalling way to drive me away.At a time when I was really in need of support she was extremely cold and distant.It makes it very difficult for me to think of approaching her-like I'd be losing my own self respect.I don't know if anyone understands that.?