Um, I TOO don't understand starting a relationship without chemistry. What on earth brought the two of you together? I can only imagine what sexual relations must mean for you. A sense of obligation comes to mind. When you DO have relations is it pleasing? Do you have a sense of gratification? Or is it something you would rather avoid?

I'm sorry to not give you the news you want but in no way does a romantic bond come with time.

Perhaps maybe we are talking about two individuals differing expectations of what romance is all about.

Question: How do you view sexual relations and a relationship in general? What do you consider is a wife's role in a relationship?