When I broke up 6wks ago from my greatest love all sort of grief went through my mind and heart - including that of the previous relationship. That one had ended rather suddenly with little explanation. The breakup of the current relationshio dragged up memories of the other. Certainly a big part of it was feeling that there was something wrong with me in that I coudn't maintain a relationship. I cried and cried remembering grief over the first as well as the second. Even though I no longer had feelings for the first I just never had proper closure and I guess I still had pent up feelings of annoyance and hurt.

Does this sound familiar? I don't think there is anything wrong with grieving both relationships but if you are pining for the first you have a problem on your hands. Do you feel responsible for the break up of the first? Do you feel responsible for the state of the current?

I think you need to consider how your life may have been enriched by the break up of the first relationship. That will give you closure as well as provide you with some validation for being in the second.