Well, we have been married for 24 years. He is a wonderful guy in so many ways, and has never done anything that I would leave him for. He has loved me like nobody else ever has in my life. However, he has certain wounds form his own childhood that he likes to pretend aren't there. Doesn't want to admit weakness, I suppose.

No, he will not go for counseling. Believes an intelligent person ought to be able to solve their own problems. Again, that would be a sign of weakness.

I guess I just have to get myself as healthy as possible so that I can better deal with these things. My boys are at the point of moving out, and so it will be just him and I soon. Not sure if that will make things better or worse.