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I'm a fan of being great friends first who recognize a connection but want to build the friendship first. When I first met my late husband we hung out all the time as friends, but good friends, just the two of us doing all kinds of stuff, and when we finally got together a year later and then married 4 years after that, we always had the loyalty of the friendship -- less volatile than the loyalty of only romantic connection in my opinion -- to rely on. Made for a really solid relationship. Plenty of love, and chemistry too -- even without having explored that sort of thing early on. Maybe we were just lucky; there's probably always some luck involved, but with love all things really are possible.
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“We use our minds not to discover facts but to hide them. One of things the screen hides most effectively is the body, our own body, by which I mean, the ins and outs of it, its interiors. Like a veil thrown over the skin to secure its modesty, the screen partially removes from the mind the inner states of the body, those that constitute the flow of life as it wanders in the journey of each day.”
— Antonio R. Damasio, “The Feeling of What Happens: Body and Emotion in the Making of Consciousness” (p.28)
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