I am afraid to loose myself...I am afraid that the other persons actions will have a permanent effect on my own future......& I don't want to lower my standards or change my own values that I believe in to adapt them into my life. I don't like being told that when I am taking care of my own needs & desires in life that I am being controlling.

I don't like myself in a relationship when I have someone there & want to be able to depend on them so I don't have to do it all.....then I get bad information to base my decisions on because I trusted them.

Gee, sounds like the reasons I am going to end up owning my farm alone in Kentucky after 32 years of marriage.

Debbie