Sometimes I think I might be better off with someone I dated before and then I have to remember the ways that wasn't working and would not have worked in the long run. I also have to deal sometimes with my rather high standards in my present relationship. I then also have to remember the carried pain from the terrible fathering I had. Mother was rather hard too. The needs that have been unmet. The carried baggage. The rather destructive path I used to be on. We all have to work so hard at it.