As a "MAN", he should be able to speak up for himself. When a wife yell at him, he should say: "You cannot yell at me", or at least say "It not right to keep yell and scream at my face."
He capable of argue, he capable of raise his voice, just like he argue and raise his voice at that ex-GF of his. Then do it to me too, don't be quiet just because he wants to keep the marriage happy, that will build up resentment.

I know stomp out of the house is not the answer. But he sure can walk out of the door and leave the house, and come back when I calm down. He doesn't have to sit there, and look at me yell and scream at him.
There ladies that told me when they yell, their DH would go into the bedroom and close the door. Why can't my husband do that too? He clearly can go to the bedroom and close the door. He doesn't have to sit there, and look at me yell and scream at him.

Even when I don't yell and just talk, like when we don't see eyes to eyes on things; he still let me speak first, and he just quietly listen. When I'm done speaking, then he started to talk his viewpoints and explain why he disagree with me.
He doesn't engage in a screaming match with me, he doesn't even engage in a debate with me. He always let me speak first, and he speak after when I'm done talking.. I know he listening, because he looks at me as I yell and talk, I know he listening to what I'm saying. I mean I can see the worries look on his face, but he just so calm in dealing with it.
It make me frustrated, because I feel that he not man enough.

Men are the leader of the house, men make the main decision, men tell their wife what is right and wrong. Men don't be quiet and let their wife yell and scream at them without say a word back.. I'm just trying to get my husband to act more like a man here.

I will be frank here okay, I'm sorry if this offended anyone. But I myself personally do NOT like men who scare of their wife. I do NOT have any respest for men who scare of their wife.
I didn't married a guy who scare of his wife, I married a "Street smart" guy who able to stand up for himself. I married a 'Street smart' guy who have strength of character, who doesn't let anyone step on him.

I told my husband this, last time I explain to him that I don't like men who scare of their wife. I don't want him to be scare of me. He answered, he said he not scare of me. He said he doesn't fight or argue with me it because he loves me. Because he chose to married me, because I'm his wife.
And he said he have nothing to be embarrassed about that he sit there quietly listen, and let his wife yell and talk it all out.. He explained that even if he talks, I'm too mad to listen and see his point of view anyways. So he thinks that it better that he let me talk it all out first, and then he will start talking afterward.. He thinks when I calm down, I will listen and understand him more.
Yeah, that his reasoning, if it make sense? I dunno why, but his reasoning make me frustrated!

And therapy, I am in therapy trying to work out my emotional childhood baggage regarding my abusive mother in my childhood.
But I don't need therapy for 'is argument healthy or not', because I have my own opinion in how I think a 'Man' should be.
And I think my husband is not being man enough, at least not in my definition of what a man is.

Do I love him? Sure I do, I chose him over my whole family. In Chinese culture, not many girls have the strength to chose a guy over their WHOLE family, and let their family disown them. But I have the strength to chose him, I don't care that my family disown me, he was more important, I love him, I need him.
I just I wish he would act more like a "man". And yes, I'm frustrated.
The marriage have been so peaceful, tooo peaceful.. I just wish if he would fight or argue with me just for once, then I won't have be this frustrated.

Welp, I guess there nothing left to say here. Obviously we all have different viewpoints on arguments. I find arguments is healthy. When a couple stop argue, that when they stop care.
I think my marriage need arguing, I think that he suppress himself. Hopefully one of us won't build up resentment over time.