Welcome numb1!
This is very hard; your post hit some hurts in me. Just want you to know I do understand. I want to tell you to run for the hills and don't look back but I never could. Please if nothing else trust your own gut. Being unfaithful is being unfaithful and it's not just full sexual contact that is being unfaithful. We are not to blame for others actions!!!
Hope you do not give up on getting a counselor.
mlyn