This does sound like a very, very complicated situation. I'm a little confused, though, when you say you would be willing to move but he doesn't seem ready because you've tried to end it before? Is it that he's not ready for you to move closer to him because you've tried to end it? Or did I misinterpret that?

I wish I had more advice for you, but I really don't know what to say. This is beyond just dealing with a long distance relationship. There's a lot more going on. Just remember, you have to do what is best for you. Take care.