I lived 16 years with a man who was no more than a roommate. I wasted my life away. At first it was just what I wanted in a relationship as I'd had a history of abuse and assault before that. I thought it fantastic that I could live a life without sex. But I realized into the relationship that sex is what was missing. It took until I was 47 to find a partner where it was not only healthy but good. I'd no idea that it could be that way.