You've absolutely got to be firm and put your foot down my friend.

When I moved in with my now ex-husband he had full custody of his son. When the child's mother took him each weekend, my ex paid for everything - food, hotel, diapers, clothes, and pocket money. I put my foot down. He was already paying her support. I also demanded she have her own set of clothes, toys, etc for the child. That the child having a packed bag each time wasn't appropriate.

Naturally there was a scene - between the three of us. But it was I who won out. I was the one who handed the child over and I refused to hand the boy over with anything. She learnt rather quickly what it was to provide for her child.

You need to put your foot down and your BF needs to make a choice. If he feels a need to be there 24/7 for the child he should be filing for custody. At the very least he should be getting out of that household. [2yrs?!!! that's crap]