Well for me inappropriate things left around my house just would weigh heavily on me. I may not be a clean freak but I keep my house tidy enough should anyone drop by.

By the way, if hubby thinks car parts around the house are appropriate, what is his reaction when you visit other homes?

I think those of us with mental health issues hold more importance of a sense of home than other people do. It is our saftey net, our sense of refuge. You are unable to think of your home as such.

While yes it his responsibility to move these objects, he obviously won't do it. Are you then able to move them yourself.

Someone above recommended you set aside a place in the house where he can store these things. I realise it is still will be a bone of contention but it seems like a valid compromise. Of course you could always leave tampons around the house, haha.

But seriously.

The matter of blame, shame, and lack of support. You've said he won't go to counseling but is he willing to go to one of your own sessions with your psychiatrist or therapist?

Have a conversation with him about expectations. What are his expectations of you and let him know yours. Is there a middle ground?