I think that you don't see whatever as arguing, but it is? You don't need to scream in order to fight. Fighting/Arguing just means that there is a disagreement. Also if he was scared of you he would not just sit there and take your screaming and wait until you're calm before calmly speaking to you about what he has rationalized. If he was honestly scared of you he wouldn't share his opinions.

Maybe you are also internalizing your emotional abuse from childhood and expecting norms you saw as a child in your own relationship. There could be a cultural expectation of a "man" acting a certain way that you are trying to put on your husband. Dramas are not good representations of what healthy relationships look like too.