rcat, the behavior you've described is exactly how my mother-in-law behaves. It's upsetting, unsettling and constant!!! -- luckily, I only see her for a few weeks a year (and it's coming up real quick, holidays). It's effected my wife drastically, but she doesn't see it, is blind to it and refuses to admit any fault in her mom's behavior. I've been the subject of attacks and have been accused of "being too sensitive, too nice." -- it's very nauseating to me.

To make matters worse dear M.I.L is heavily involved in her church and volunteers every chance she gets (then turns around and talks badly about all those she 'helps'). EVERYONE thinks she is a wonderful giving person -- I have reminder her how unChristian-like her behavior is, but it's usually ignored or laughed off, ... "now let us pray".

I don't look forward to the next few weeks......