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Usually I draw a line between positive criticism and control/bullying. But it also depends on who is criticising.
If I know the reasons for what I did, it is easier to hear what other people think of my actions.
Maybe there is a grain of truth in every subjective opinion, not more and not less.
Criticism can also be a defense mechanism of a hurt ego. (I try to think of that when my mom attacks me) - It still hurts and I am too sensitive, too.