My T often tells me that she won't judge me for anything. When I feel like she will, I go to session with the intent to say something and eventually there is a pause in our conversation and I think about saying it for 5 minutes. During that pause, I build up the courage to say it and remind myself that she won't judge me. She might wish I had done something different but she doesn't let what I say devalue me as a person. It has taken me awhile to realize that but I think I finally get it now.