Thank you for the support, it is nice to know I am right in what I am doing. And Wants2Fly your post really helps nad makes me think clearly. It will take time to get over the whole thing, I am gradually seening how much pressure both of them had been putting on me and ofr a while and well it is hard to get through.

In the end I think my expereince with men is not too good, I get scared when I dump anyone that there will be trouble as two boyfriends I had caused me trouble, not physical but emotionall bullying when I dumped them and one man who was an acquantince forced himself on me. And well alothough I had had good expereinces the bad seems to come back when everything goes wrong.

I do feel alot more wary of the internet now though, I realise that people can be lying and well that they can, without my wanting them to, put pressure and sort of suck me dry of energy. I dont think that this guy who contacted me by gettin gmy email from here was concsiously an emotional predator but he did have alot more problems than I relised and sadly he focused all his needs on to me and that was unfair and added to unseen pressure and in the end meant the friendship was unviable. But of course I was shouldering two peoples problems, sadly when he contacted me I was emotionally at a very week ebb. He said he wanted to help and be a support and well who doesnt want support, but I got through the troubles and by that time was sucked in to a friendship and so could not see what the truth was. Thank you for oppening my eyes to that. Time will heal but hopefully I wont forget and from now on the interent will be a tool for information, contact to trustworthy friends and if I need support or advice I iwll keep it within the coinfnes of this forum.

As to new friends, well only if we meet in the real world then I can check them out first and will have the chance to see quicte quickly that they are not good fro me in my circumstances, not that I can meet new people much as I am ill, but well better no new friends than new friends making me ill.